This intensive is for the relationship with yourself, with your companions (people you consider in your life close), with the ways you give and receive care.

We move through the language of softness.. co-regulation, emotional intimacy, companionship as practice, and what it means to tend to ourselves and take inventory of who is tending to us, how.. and also the other way around.

Inspired by the questions asked at the most recent Soft Soirée. Where the cups are is a journey into our literal cabinets, closets and our emotional, physiological and mental…in this month intensive you will be with others who too want to deepen their understanding of self, softness, and the gap spaces.

This will is a comprehensive practice that leans on the somatic, and guided embodied practices, writing retreats, and birth work psychology to help deepen and move through the experience.

For the person who is pregnant and ready to build their own toolkit — breath, movement, nervous system support, questions to ask, and the emotional, physiological and relational preparation that no one talks about enough.

This intensive meets you where you are and walks with you through the physiological and emotional landscape of pregnancy — building presences, comfort, and capacity for what’s coming.

Because we believe postpartum is forever.

This intensive is for anyone in the postpartum season — whether you are 6 weeks out or 6 years out or 60 years post. We move through nervous system recovery, emotional processing, identity, rest, and the kind of companionship care that postpartum deserves but rarely receives.

For those who are being called to be a soft landing but feel as if they don’t know how.

We know first hand that most people witness the person they love navigate different seasons, genuinely want to be there in the ways they need. They want to be fully present and useful. They want to do it right. But “wanting” and “knowing how” are two very different things.

What often arrives first — before the support, before the care — is everything the companion is carrying themselves. Their own stories about birth, life. Their fears. Their biases. Their relationship with navigating discomfort and vulnerability. Acknowledging feelings and practices when you can’t fix but only hold. You can love, which is real.. but sometimes seasons, love simply isn’t received or felt.

It is our goal to soften things for the person who is experiencing life for as in any season the capacity to labor, teach and even tolerate can be thin, impatient and lacking.

Often we see this in our work and we want to address and tie a bow int the gap spaces of a person needing things and a person wanting to give things but not knowing how.

As a doula, I witnessed this consistently — the beauty and dedication of a support person who wanted to be everything for the person they loved, and the ways their own unexamined experiences, bias, behavior and actions would show up in the room instead of what they intended- leaving them falling short at a time that is most critical to get things right. I also witnessed what changed when that gap was tended to, closed. When the companion had space to sit with themselves first before trying to hold someone else.

Pregnancy, labor, birth, and postpartum require more than one person to facilitate care, comfort, humanity, and protection. And that kind of support — the kind that actually holds someone — doesn’t begin at the hospital. It begins long before. In the tender in-betweens. In the ordinary moments that turn out to matter most.

This cohort is for the companion who wants to close that gap. Who wants to show up with confidence, awareness, and the kind of softness that comes from doing the work on themselves first through practice, training and education.

It always begins with self.